Sociopath Exposes Dating Tactics That Hook Men Before Taking Control

A woman who calls herself a sociopath has exposed the dating strategies she claims keep men emotionally hooked and desperate to prove themselves. Kanika Batra spoke on Chris Williamson's Modern Wisdom podcast about her methods. She says these tactics can look like normal romance before they turn into attempts to seize control.

Batra, 30, identifies different personalities and decides exactly how to handle them. 'I know what people are feeling,' she told the host. 'I just will never feel it.' As a former Miss Universe and Miss World finalist, she admits to mimicking responses men want to see. She has been diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.

Her approach relies on three specific methods that start as ordinary affection but end up controlling the relationship. First, she overwhelms a partner with gifts, intense attention, and deep affection until he becomes attached to that feeling. Then she withdraws the warmth. This creates uncertainty and forces him to work hard just to regain her approval. Finally, she sets small tests requiring men to inconvenience themselves. She uses these to measure loyalty before committing.

'It's just an idea of I understand that you're a certain type of person,' Batra explained. 'And I know how to work every type of person.' She openly admitted to being highly skilled at lying and manipulation. People know she can manipulate in many different ways, yet she claims it feels natural.

Love-bombing comes easily to her. That term describes overwhelming someone with affection, praise, gifts, or communication early on. This potentially creates an intense attachment before a genuine bond has formed. 'I also actually really love giving gifts,' she said. 'And I love love bombing. I do it naturally. It's not necessarily planned.'

The flood of attention can leave partners craving more. Batra described what happens when the intensity begins to fade. They get hooked on it and start getting obsessive. They will ask, 'Why aren't you calling me more?' or wonder if she is seeing other people. This dynamic plays out slowly until the relationship disintegrates.

Antisocial personality disorder involves deceitfulness, impulsiveness, irritability, and physical aggression. Narcissistic personality disorder features arrogance, entitlement, and an inflated self-image. Mental health professionals diagnose these using criteria in the DSM-5-TR. Batra was diagnosed with ASPD at age 21. She is married now and says she does not have to wear a mask around her husband. He acts as a calming influence for her.

The interview highlights how information about such personal tactics remains limited and privileged. Only those inside the dynamic or hearing it directly understand the full scope of these behaviors. The facts show a clear progression from affectionate gestures to calculated tests of loyalty. Men often realize too late they are being manipulated. Batra's story reveals a chilling reality where emotions become tools for control rather than genuine connection.

You must be seeing other people." Batra admitted that she prefers to give affection on her own schedule instead of reacting whenever a partner demands it. She confessed that after about three months, the fantasy she built up often crumbles into reality, leaving her feeling pure contempt for those men. Her second trick involves building walls and closing doors. She told women to kill their social-media alerts, hide activity indicators, stop texting constantly, and keep an air of mystery while dating early on. This stops a woman from chasing the dopamine hit of getting attention and keeps a man in the dark about when she is online or not. "You don't know when he was online. He doesn't know when you were online. You're mysterious," she said. She also suggested saving a number under a mildly insulting contact name to strip away his emotional power. Using hepatitis B as an example, she reasoned that a woman would feel less crushed if the person stored under that label simply stopped replying. Her third move is to check how much effort a man will actually put in. Instead of asking for grand gestures immediately, she recommends requesting small tasks or making him travel slightly farther than needed just to meet up. "That's the purpose of tests," Batra said. "So, you ask them to go slightly inconveniently out of their way to help you in some way." She continued: "Do you mind picking this up on your way here? Do you mind meeting me here? Even though it's a little bit further from you." According to her, a man who truly cares will not object to these minor inconveniences. This lets a woman judge his actions instead of trusting empty romantic promises. She also advised quietly reminding a reluctant suitor that other women are out there. "If he thinks he's better than you, show him your other options," Batra said, before warning that the tactic must never look obvious to anyone else. "Just let him know you've got options." Williamson pushed back on whether this guidance could push women toward using toxic games in healthy relationships. He pointed out that love-bombing a man then cutting off affection, or digging up his insecurities and poking them on purpose, looks very much like the manipulation tactics usually condemned when men use them against women. Batra admitted some of her advice could be seen as manipulative, saying: "I think it is fair. Yeah." Still, she insisted that this ruthless behavior must stop once a secure relationship has been formed. "I tell them where ruthlessness should begin and where it should end. And it should definitely end when you're in a secure relationship," she said.